The Invisible Weight of Dual Roles in Grief

The Invisible Weight of Dual Roles in Grief

Tying Dad’s Shoes and Becoming Power of Attorney and Healthcare Proxy The moment took her by surprise. Sarah crouched before her aging father, steadying hands that had grown unsteady with time. She tied her father’s shoes. Her father, now frail and distant due...
Living is My Legacy

Living is My Legacy

What must I do to be at peace with myself so that I may live presently and die with grace? Last week I watched Alua Arthur’s EndWell talk from 2019.  In 14 minutes, she asked this question and articulated the unidentified thoughts and feelings swirling with...
Who are Your Trees?

Who are Your Trees?

How the Redwoods taught me to receive support In May of 2023, Joe and I found ourselves standing beneath the towering giants of one of Northern California’s smaller redwood forests. Most larger parks were still closed, recovering from the dual blows of forest fires...
Grief and Your Brain

Grief and Your Brain

Is there something wrong with me? “If someone close to us dies, then, based on what we know about object-trace cells, our neurons still fire every time we expect our loved one to be in the room. And this neural trace persists until we can learn that our loved one is...
The Sacrament of Estate Work

The Sacrament of Estate Work

It’s not just a paper; it symbolizes your person “Your loss is not a test, a lesson, something to handle, a gift, or a blessing. Loss is simply what happens to you in life. Meaning is what you make happen.”― David Kessler, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of...